DEAR DEIDRE: MY friends are always talking about their desire to be skinny, but I can’t stand my tiny frame.
I’m a 55-year-old woman and am severely underweight at 7st.
I’m healthy and have a good appetite, but can never seem to put on any weight.
I have no curves and a flat chest, meaning I look like a child.
I hate my body so much that I refuse to let my partner see me naked, as I feel like my bones are sticking out all over the place.
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Other people always comment on my weight, saying things like, “You’re so skinny”.
It’s like saying to a fat person, “You’re huge”. It’s not OK.
DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry to hear you’re self-conscious about your weight.
You can start to change your focus by noting all the amazing things your body does.
To be healthy and fit is something to be proud of.
Instead of homing in on the parts you dislike, find the things you do like and remind yourself of those aspects when you start to feel low.
Your partner loves you inside and out.
To build up your confidence in the bedroom, try removing one item of underwear in bed and in the dark.
Then try gradually turning on more lights.